A DOCTOR A DAY…

Keeps the apple away??? Ok, so it’s been a confusing couple of years, right? Though everything is relative for sure. Others have had/are having it much worse. Still, a tough enough year (since last April) that I’ve found it quite hard to sit down to write. Anything. Not only did Covid put a hold on socializing and motivation, but Ben has been dealing with multiple health issues, bringing pretty much everything else to a halt for a few months. 

Navigating the medical system here, especially compared to my comfort level with the US system (even its foibles), has been a major learning curve. People always ask when they find out we’re here – How is the medical care? It’s a 3rd world country, right? So how could it even be decent? But it is. In fact I would say the only thing they lack in some cases is organization. It’s been frustrating to go in for an appointment only to be told you were down for tomorrow, not today. Even when you have the card they wrote on to prove otherwise. Computer scheduling systems don’t seem to exist. Or does it?

But mostly it’s been ok. 

The toughest part I’d say is dealing with specialists who come only once or twice per week from Guadalajara. Sometimes appointments book fast and you’re left with either waiting weeks or traipsing into the city of 6 million, hoping your GPS works accurately. (Ours didn’t recently and we were 45 minutes late for an appointment. “No problem” the doctor himself said when I called to let his office know. “We’ll wait. And I’ll send a map to your WhatsApp”. Would that ever happen in the States?)

WhatsApp is a big deal here. For all kinds of businesses. It’s the best way to communicate with some doctors, though busy as they are they may be slow in answering. In a recent encounter the doctor let me know that she only reads her messages in the evening and we need to call (WhatsApp) if it is urgent. Links to office information and directions are often done on WhatsApp when Guadalajara is involved. In Ajijic and the surrounding Lakeside area phone calls and sometimes emails suffice.

Guadalajara hospital-one of many

Lab results are emailed to you and your doctor usually in a timely manner though there are times you have to remind them. Delays are sometimes blamed on computer issues which can certainly happen with an overload on local systems. Diagnostic test results are handed to you within minutes. Colonoscopy, CT scans, etc. You pay your bill and leave with results in hand. It’s up to you to follow up with the doctor who ordered the tests.

In hospital you are not discharged until your bill is paid. Some accept cash only, others (higher end) accept credit cards. Your IV remains in your arm and your medicines stay in the nurse’s drawer until you return to them with your stamped receipt.

Insurance. Some take Medicare Advantage plans for emergencies. We haven’t experienced that yet. We’ve paid out of pocket for everything. Consider that a colonoscopy costs as little as $390. Doctor visits run $17-50.

We bought a MetLife policy here through a local agent but it requires obtaining facturas, an official receipt that office staff are totally annoyed by. Good luck convincing them to get it to you. And if it’s from last year – or even last month – forget it. We finally realized we were drowning in papers trying to make it all work so we made an appointment with our agent. Why didn’t we call before? Looks like – we’ll see – they’re going to do most of the work of tying it all together and submitting it. Of course, then you have to wait and hope for approval. (Last year when Ben needed a procedure, approval was taking too long. The doctor himself told us to meet him in the ED of a specific hospital in Guadalajara then insurance would HAVE to pay. The doctor and the hospital were paid on the spot. We’re still waiting for reimbursement for tests, consultations and medications.) If you forget to get each receipt, medical order, lab and diagnostic results, good luck. There are no connecting computer systems here that I’m aware of. Now, after the fact, I’d say collect it all in a very systematic manner. Organize. Organize. Keep good records. Keep everything. Ask for help along the way. Someday maybe we’ll get the hang of it.

Most doctors here are trained in top notch medical schools in Guadalajara or Mexico City. They speak excellent English (though the accent can be a problem if you’re hard of hearing-take someone with you to interpret), treat you like an equal, and for the most part are adept at explaining everything, including costs. You definitely don’t get much of that in the States.

Our interpreter

We have friends whose doctors have actually taken them to Guadalajara facilities for tests. Friends whose doctors have made house calls to administer IV fluids. Our GP came to the house last year to test us for Covid after we’d been exposed. Hospice doesn’t really exist in this area. Families take care of their elderly and doctors handle palliative care in the home. I’ve recently learned of a home health agency for the gringo population and a large “continuous care” facility is well underway nearby. This is a retirement community and everything revolves around that. If you have the local government insurance here (similar to Medicaid), you are eligible for government run hospitals. We’ve been told that you must take food, blankets, and a companion for those hospital stays, as well as purchasing things like wound care products and sometimes even surgical “parts”. Lines and wait times can be quite long.

As a former nurse I’ve wondered what wages are here. A recent conversation with a radiologist was a bit shocking. For “half time”, as he called a 7-8 hour shift, 5 days/week, he earns 30,000 pesos per month or about $1500. The result is that professionals add extra duties (like coming to Ajijic clinics and working weekends) to increase their income. I have no idea what medical training costs are or if they have loans to be repaid as in the US. Mexico is pretty much a “pay as you go” country. I asked my dermatologist this week if medical training here is expensive. “I went several years ago,” she said, “and I think I paid the equivalent of $100 US dollars per year. And the training was excellent.”

As for routine care, there is a wide variety of GP’s, some Mexican, some not. There’s also a small hospital in the center of town that acts as a clinic. We’ve had diagnostic tests done there (again, can’t leave til you pay) and checkups for sinus infections, minor injuries, etc. Adequate, thoughtful care in a simple, clean facility.

The private hospitals in “Guad” are generally very nice, even hotel quality sometimes. Two privately owned hospitals have been built here in Ajijic since we arrived. Targeted for gringos. Like Anywhere USA, reviews are mixed. There is a functional medicine doctor here now and an acupuncturist or two. GP’s are somewhat versed in herbs and vitamins and happy to recommend according to your interest. (My gut issues have recently been soothed by guava leaf tea on my doctor’s advice.) As more gringos come to town demand increases and services arise to accommodate. It is an ever-changing world. In more ways than one.

Hospital lobby

I wrote this several months ago. Since then our interaction with the medical system increased dramatically. The biggest barriers were language and insurance approval. It’s a long story. Perhaps for another time. I will only say that in the end, though the medical care was topnotch and – according to a close friend and Physician’s Assistant in the US – right on target, Ben succumbed to Multiple Myeloma on July 3rd in our home surrounded by friends and caregivers. The last 3 months of his life were incredibly difficult but the support we received was, and is, overwhelming.

Bless his generous heart. He was loved by many. Tumi & I surely miss him.

MURALS MEXICO

The pre-hispanic Olmec, first major civilization in México, created some of the earliest known painted “wall” art in Central America. Enter the Spanish and Catholicism and you have a widespread venue for religious teachings. Add to that – a “readymade platform for the politically motivated” – and Voila! the birth of the Mexican mural movement.

México is well-known for its “Big Three”, its most famous and popular muralists commissioned by the post-Mexican Revolution (1920) government to begin “a new era for Mexico and its newly empowered people”. The “Big Three” created a variety of large scale murals all over México. The new government wanted a new identity and a way to offer its people a sense of pride and cultural beauty. Murals appealed to and educated a mostly illiterate population.

The most renowned of the “Big Three”, Diego Rivera, husband of popular artist Frida Kahlo and subject of many murals himself, began his depictions of the “noble and glorious” working class with the first commissioned mural in Mexico City at Escuela Nacional Preparatoria (where Frida was a student). Diego visited and lived in the United States several times, painting commissioned murals in California, New York City and Detroit, where his unexpected inclusion of Lenin and symbols of Communism offended the Rockefellers who had commissioned it. The work was covered over and Rivera returned to México. Diego died in 1957, leaving behind a wide legacy as painter, political activist and womanizer.

The Arsenal-Frida Kahlo Distributes Arms (Taken from Taschen’s book RIVERA)
The Great City of Tenochtitlán (from book RIVERA)
Couldn’t resist including this local street mural depicting Diego & Frida & Catrina

Jalisco-born José Clemente Orozco, a caricaturist and illustrator (illustrating John Steinbeck’s book The Pearl two years before his death in 1949), portrayed mankind’s suffering and the horrors of war in his murals and frescoes in government buildings of Guadalajara, and in colleges in New York, California and Dartmouth. Like Rivera, Orozco spent time in New York where he witnessed the 1929 stock market crash. Combined with his traumatic experience during the Mexican Revolution and the rise of fascism in Europe, Orozco’s work took on a dark, ominous look that left him “Mexico’s not-so-favorite son”.

(While writing this I came across an article about muralist Orozco in the latest Guadalajara Reporter, April 2-8. Orozco Metafíasco, a tribute to his work and the 100 years since the start of the Mexican muralist movement, is showing in Guadalajara’s Museo de Las Artes until May 29th. Closed Mondays.)

David Alfaro Siqueiros (1896-1974) was a young radical, blending his bold and optimistic view of the Mexican Revolution with his visions of science and machinery. His work was guided by use of equipment, materials and techniques he discovered while studying in Los Angeles in 1932. His early days in the army exposed him to the culture and daily struggles of the poor and working people of México. He also traveled throughout Europe where he was heavily influenced by artists both past and present. He was a Communist who famously led an attack on Leon Trotsky’s house in Mexico City in a failed attempt to assassinate him. (See Wikipedia for more information.)

The Muralist movement (1920-1970) rejected the traditional venues for production, showing and selling of art. The painting of walls throughout the country was inspired by indigenous Mexican materials and techniques. Over time a proliferation of street art arose throughout Central and Southern America. Blank walls became showcases for images of Catholicism and indigenous Mexican religions, as well as political statements. They became ” a vehicle for education and the improvement of society”.

These days street art projects proliferate throughout many areas of México, inspired I’m sure by the earlier Mexican muralists. Websites and blog posts showcase the results. Social media/Instagram spread the word. In 2015 Las Palmitas, a low-income neighborhood in Pachuca, México, came together with artists to turn the hillside barrio into a grand colorful mountainside mural, painting facades of over 200 homes in bright candy colors that extended 16,000 sq. ft. into the barrio’s narrow streets, bringing people together in community spirit. (theguardian.com)

Ajijic is the proud home to two internationally known local painters who continue to brighten our streets with murals symbolic of the history of our area. Efren Gonzales is now director of our local cultural center. He is well known for his paintings depicting historical symbology and typical scenes of the Lakeside area (ie., the markets). Jesus Lopez Vega has spent the past 13+ years studying the history of Ajijic and is working on a handwritten/painted book about his findings. His murals depict mystical “visions of the ancients” and native traditions.

Efren Gonzalez
Efren Gonzalez
Jesus Lopez Vega
Jesus Lopez Vega

Another government program that continues today is known as Pueblo Mágico, a five year work program geared toward attracting tourists, thus increasing revenue to the small towns (pueblas). Towns nominated must be an example of beauty, historical importance, or natural wonders. The designation is similar to UNESCO World Heritage Site declaration. In December 2020 Ajijic, Jalisco, (where I live) was awarded Pueblo Mágico status and the work began. Walls began turning colors. Faces, animals, landscapes, and geometric designs started showing up everywhere, turning Ajijic into a most colorful place to live. Murals are part of México now, a welcome and expected part of the “color in the streets”!

THREE YEARS & COUNTING

Hard to believe that 3 years ago this morning we were serenaded by a brass band at 6:15am. Well, maybe not serenaded because as it turned out it was the day Mexicans here in Ajijic celebrate their construction workers and there happened to be one right across the street. But we didn’t know that, of course, so we smiled with delight, standing on our terrace in the drizzling rain, while the band played on.

It took about 10 months to go from deciding to retire and move to actually landing in Guadalajara then taking a taxi (drivers there don’t know Ajijic very well and rarely speak English) to our little pink Mexican casa. During that time I resigned from my nursing job, Ben shut down his jewelry business, we visited the Mexican consulate in Raleigh 2 or 3 times, made numerous phone calls, tried to explain to my son, had a big gathering/potluck to explain our plan then sold 85% of our belongings, including our 3 vehicles. We worked our tails off to make it happen. We were motivated, psyched. This blog was born of that effort in an attempt to share the logistics, feelings and in’s and out’s of our big adventure.

A lot has happened during that time, of course: we bought a car, got our Mexican driver’s licenses, took Spanish classes for awhile, became permanent residents, moved from a noisy construction project right beside us to a lovely modern home in a small gated community 2 weeks after the Covid lockdown hit (and all that entailed), learned the ropes on paying bills, buying food, driving through the country, explored places like Oaxaca, Pátzcuaro, Tapalpa, visited the indigenous villages and artisans nearby, began making a new group of interesting friends, and so much more. It has indeed been – and continues to be – a big adventure.

There’ve been a few health issues to deal with. That plus Covid slowed our hopes of traveling widely. But the places we have been, on toll roads and backroads, have shown us the beauty of this country. We have felt safe. We have grown to love the Mexican people who are so much more than the US media would have you believe. They are kind and friendly and quick to smile, quick to help you with your Spanish, quick to help you with just about anything.

Modern highways

Part of life here involves stepping up to help those less fortunate through food banks, employment with a decent wage, helping with medical bills, etc. Recent torrential rains clawed tons of mud and debris from the mountainsides, devastating many small Mexican homes and businesses. The local government, neighbors and gringos stepped in to offer immediate support. The annual Feria held in November generates a year’s income for artisans brought from all over the country. Canceled for 2 years now due to Covid. Our local “gringo” organization that provides so many resources for those of us from the US and Canada – the Lake Chapala Society – has stepped up since protocols have relaxed (masks and gel required) to provide a venue to sell small amounts of crafts easily shipped from the artisans, giving them at least some income.

In May of 2020 we adopted our 20 lb. mini schnauzer Tumi, thinking it might be years before we could travel. He is high energy and high maintenance but has brought us so much joy. We have no regrets…except when lightning booms or cohetes (fireworks) pop. Like many other dogs, he hates the noise and hides shivering until surrounded with loving arms. We’ve made new friends walking him through nearby cobblestoned (not as romantic as it sounds) streets, both human (we talk) and canine (he “talks” to them). Can’t imagine life without him.

The architecture of places like Guanajuato, the variety of the geography, and the craftwork of artisans, the numerous celebratory rituals, and the glorious weather (no, México is not just desert and not just hot) are reason enough to be here. And we have barely touched the surface. We have friends visiting over the next 4 months. After that we’ll plan trips to Mexico City, Chiapas, and other places of interest. We don’t want to miss a thing. So the things we thought we’d settle into, like painting classes, major hiking, Healing Touch and aromatherapy, have all been set aside for now. It’s a different time in our lives. We don’t want to waste a minute of it.

Postscript: The hardest part of all this has been leaving longtime friends and family behind. My sweet granddaughter Hazel Grace was born 2 months after we left. Covid put a crimp in seeing her regularly but FaceTime has kept us in the loop as she grows “like a weed”. Much love and many hugs go to my son Japhy, my daughter-in-law Toni and mi nieta Hazie. I’m not sure they’ll ever understand why we did this but I hope someday they’ll come visit.

FALL IN AJIJIC

I thought I’d be writing about Día de Los Muertos, or Day of the Dead, for this post. About how it was different from two years ago. But, honestly, I just didn’t enjoy it much this year, not after the magic of 2019. Color me spoiled. I didn’t go to the cemetery because they were only allowing 10 people in at a time to celebrate with their loved ones. The usual all day celebration with food, drink, and music was banned so I figured local folks needed to be in that cemetery a lot more than I did. Still, I suspect that’s where the true celebration was happening. That and the lighting of the wall of candles after dark. But we were home by then, not willing to stand in the narrow space between the church and the wall with a crowd.

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Streets that were honored with numerous ofrendas (altars) in 2019 saw few this years. And the tapetes de aserrin – sawdust carpets – that graced the streets below the plaza in 2019 were sorely absent this year. Instead there was a solemn parade of Catrinas on the ciclopista (bike path) running parallel to our main street. We managed that crowd by moving frequently and leaving quickly.

The Friday and Saturday following that Tuesday celebration were honored with crafts from Mexican artisans at sales held at Lake Chapala Society. LCS, as we call it, is a local organization sitting on property near the lake donated years ago by an adventuresome woman named Neill James. But that is a story for another day. LCS offers classes, information, events, medical screening, a library and a second hand book/DVD store, among other things. For many of us who move here it is a lifeline.

Two years ago I posted a blog about the Feria Maestros del Arte, an amazing annual event held in nearby Chapala each November. Many of the 70-80 artisans, coming from all over México, made their entire year’s salary at that event. Covid, of course, put an end to that for now. So LCS stepped in to offer a space and time for “mini ferias” to be held. Artisans cannot afford to come for such a small event (two 4 hour days) so local LCS members volunteer to man the tables of crafts shipped from distant areas of México to be sold. At this latest of three events a few ceramic artists came from Tonalá, a craft community on the outskirts of Guadalajara, about an hour away. All the money from sales goes to the artisans. Ceramics, fabrics, toys, jewelry, and paintings are among the items available. Many of us miss the annual event and appreciate the opportunity to support the artisans in this way.

Other events are coming up in December and January. I imagine they will be smaller than usual also. Meanwhile, I’m enjoying fall in México. Ben is in North Carolina for two weeks where it’s cold and gray and often rainy. I’m gloating a bit as I walk Tumi each morning, capturing the feeling and colors of fall here in the Central Highlands. Cornstalks dried from the intense sun rustle in the light breeze. Most have been chopped down with machetes, fragments left as fodder for horses to enjoy. Poinsettias are coming into full bloom while morning glories wind their way through Mexican sunflowers and bougainvillea.

The rainy season ended just after our traumatic floods a few weeks ago, floods that left many with partially or completely destroyed homes and roads damaged and impassible. It was heartwarming to see how the gringo residents kicked in to help those in need. An opportunity to give back, to be part of the larger community of what we call Lakeside.

The air is dry now, with dust kicking up from car wheels and lush green foliage turning to shades of gray and brown. Most of us here like the rainy season best, but even now Nature is still in bloom, still filled with birdsong and gorgeous sunsets of pink, blue, and lavender clouds over the lake and mountains. The nights are cool in the 40’s-50’s but the sun when you live at 5200′ is intense by late morning.

We’ll settle in for the winter now, well, until we go to the beach next month. Meanwhile a few friends will gather here with us for Thanksgiving and we will be grateful for them, all we have around us, and the opportunity to be part of another culture.

VENTURING OUT – MICHOACÁN

I’m thinking it was our 4th trip to Patzcuaro, this trip we made last week. It’s comfortable, we know it, we feel at home there now. On arrival, greeted by Hotel Casa Encantada manager Luis, we were invited to upgrade to the “Gran Sala” since our requested room (Ángel) was still occupied. We’re picky. We hang out a lot. So we always ask for a sofa. The Gran Sala has a beautiful great room that looks out onto the street, along with bed and bath. And sofa. Gorgeous! Proprietress Victoria Ryan obtained the property in 1998 and has spent the past 23 years turning it into a charming art-filled Mexican getaway preferred by many, like us, who visit the town. With the plaza a 5 minute walk away it is a perfect location.

After some tacos and a brief look around we headed back to enjoy our room. Our entry into the town had been a bit traumatic for me. Shortly before we hit the main street we encountered a double line of young people wearing hats and a few, masks, 1 or 2 of them pretty scary looking. They were so close together we could barely pass between them, shaking “rattles” and calling out loudly. (Turns out they were students “begging” for financial assistance to continue their education. Whew.) As I was trying to collect myself from this minor trauma we were stopped by 2 policemen, obviously detaining white SUV’s. No English. “I’m not getting out. No español”, I told them nervously. One checked the VIN number on the windshield and the other came to my door motioning to look under the carpet beneath my feet. He wiped a metal plate clean then looked at his partner and said “They’re good.” His partner looked at us with a grin and in English said: “OK. Thanks. You can go.” If he only knew how many horrible stories I’ve read about cops stopping you and making it tough. No pictures on that one.

The next day we wandered out again, heading to the huge plaza that is always buzzing with activity, but not before meeting 2 interesting folks, gringos living in Guanajuato. That’s what I love about Hotel Casa Encantada. You always meet interesting folks. Nancy and Mike asked to join us for breakfast and we were so glad they did. They have friends in Ajijic and considered living here at one point. A great new connection.

Mike & Nancy Morgan

It’d been 2 years since we’d visited Pátzcuaro, thanks to Covid, and we saw right away that the place had grown, as had the crowds. Luckily most people wore masks and gel was provided in most business doorways. This plaza is one of the best people-watching places I know of so we wandered through every day and every evening we stopped at the helado (ice cream) vendor and found a bench where we ate our fresh strawberry treat, literally the best I’ve had since childhood hand-cranked days. Though signs tell people to keep off the lush green grass, children (and dogs) are allowed. What fun to see them frolicking, enjoying themselves. I doubt many have that luxury at home. Grassy yards are not commonplace in México except in gringo communities.

This plaza, Plaza Vasco de Quiroga, is one of the largest in México I’m told, a large square with crisscross walkways to a center fountain, surrounded on all 4 sides by rows of businesses, new and old. El Cairo Papelería opened in 1913 and this was the first time I’d found it open to customers. El Asadero had just opened when we visited 2 years ago and we were happy to see it going strong. Simple Mexican food, cafeteria style, offered up by 2 young sisters and their staff. We saw no empty store fronts, only familiar Mexican craft stores, municipal offices, restaurants, etc. Business was booming.

Once again we heard the clacking of wooden shoes on the plaza sidewalks and turned to see a troop of hombres doing La Danza de los Viejitos (The Dance of the Old Men), a traditional Mexican folk dance and favorite scene of mine. This time some little guys were included, increasing crowd approval and photo ops.

It was not uncommon this time to see riders on immaculately groomed and outfitted horses prancing through the streets surrounding the plaza, even one pulling a rose adorned carriage carrying a young woman most likely on her way to the local basilica for her quinceañera mass. The quinceañera is a most important Hispanic tradition of presentan 15 year old girls into local society as adults. The special young woman presents at the cathedral in her carefully chosen dress with her Court of Honor composed of friends of her choice. Following the mass a reception is held with the young lady often performing a specially choreographed dance. Muchos pesos are spent for this big occasion. In fact this was the first of 2 young women we witnessed, the other already at the basilica with a few young women and a line of young men dressed in matching suit jackets. A fine band stood playing outside the church along with a tall young bride-to-be, smiling nervously as she awaited her turn for entering the sanctuary.

On Friday we met our friend and tour guide Jaime from Animecha Tours. Jaime is an encyclopedia of Mexican history and crafts. One of his primary tours is visiting artisan studios and store fronts in small villages surrounding Lake Pátzcuaro. Two years ago we spent 2 delightful days with him meeting many artisans and making many purchases. This time we had specific stops in mind, the first being a workshop in Santa Clara de Cobre where Napoleon and his brothers are third generation prize-winning coppersmiths. Ben had commissioned a piece from them on our last visit and he was anxious to see what new pieces they’d created. He was not disappointed. With a background in metal-smithing himself he understands the effort made to create an award winning piece. This time he came home with just that.

José and Napoleón Pérez in their studio
José Pérez with Ben’s prize piece

You just never know what you’ll see en route…

From Santa Clara we backtracked around the southern tip of the lake making our way to Ihuatzio, a village dedicated to creating a variety of items with reeds, arte en chuspata, harvested from the boggy edges of the lake. Several years ago an artist from Mexico City taught the artisans here how to weave over metal frames, making each piece more durable. After scoping out 5 different tiendas, in one of which I spotted the exact small table I’d hoped for, we headed back to the first and largest one run by Florencia and Samuel Morales where I sat in numerous chairs looking for comfort and craftsmanship complete with headrest. Bingo! Florencia herself carried my prize to our van.

Florencia Morales

We moved on to a small ceramics shop with some unusual red clay pieces. We’d originally planned to visit Cocucho, the mountain village specializing in the tall hand-built red clay pots burnished by hand and sporting black spots from the the firing process. But a 2 hour ride one way just didn’t suit us this time. This shop wasn’t quite what we were looking for but was fun nonetheless.

Circling back toward Pátzcuaro Ben asked if there are still any wood carvers around. Of course Jaime would know so on the outskirts of town we pulled up in front of a mass of chunks, trunks, and carvings of wood in front of a taller (workshop) run by el Señor Salvador Vargas Molina. We wandered through room after room packed with “treasures”, supplies, tools, piles of beads, paintings. Unbelievable. One wall was covered with painted wooden hearts which caught my eye as Ben discovered a frame stuck between some, well, I’m not sure what. El Señor and his sons do the carving and daughter Gabriela does the painting. We chose one item each and when Ben asked if they would sign their work, Gabriela disappeared momentarily, returning with a ballpoint pen and signing for both of them. A fine conclusion to our day of travels.

Heading toward the hotel we passed a group of seated protestors sitting under a shelter next to the railroad tracks – note that the train is only used for transporting products in México, not for people – with large signs hanging from the overhanging rooftop. Back at the hotel Luis explained that these were teachers, on strike due to withholding of their pay by ?. Let’s leave it at that.

We decided to look for new restaurants. Dang, veggies are so hard to find in Mexican restaurants. Ben found positive reviews for Verde Limone located not far from the Plaza Grande. A delight. Seemingly run by a group of young women with a sleek modern theme and classy food. Our friend Sydney (in Nebraska!) directed us away from town toward the embarcadero where you can catch a boat to the only island in the lake, Janitzio. (Next time.) On a side street a 50 minute walk from the hotel we found a jungle-like entrance with no sign. This was Tiendita Verde, an organic restaurant and store. Another delightful find.

Before heading out we decided to try a different way home, through the Nahuatzen mountains, indigenous land of the Purépecha people of Michoacán, catching the toll road at some distant point. We wound our way through some of the very artisan villages we had visited with Jaime then moved farther into the lush green mountains footed by fields of pink, blue, yellow and red wildflowers. A sight to behold. It reminded us of our mountains back in North Carolina, the very ones I had grown up in. Michoacán is truly a beautiful state. We’d heard in the past that we should avoid Uruapan due to cartel traffic but that is no longer an issue according to Jaime. Two large craft festivals take place in the state, one during Easter week (Santa Semana) in Uruapan and one in Pátzcuaro for Day of the Dead (Día de Los Muertos). Many festivals were put on hold all over Mexico these past 2 years but we’re told Pátzcuaro will once again hold its festival November 2nd though there may be some restrictions.

From the town of Zacupa, altitude 6500′ and population over 55,000, through the Cerro del Tecolote mountain range, we found our connection to the cuota (toll road), continuing the beautiful drive home. The tolls are not cheap (maybe $40-$50 each way) but the roads are well maintained and safe with gorgeous campo (countryside) to boot.

Home again, with our new prize possessions, we wonder how we could possibly manage any more “stuff”. But then I remember that this is not typical “stuff” and that supporting the handmade craft artisans of México is part of the reason we moved here, having been part of the artisan community in the US. So I know there will be more trips to the villages surrounding Lake Pátzcuaro and other areas of México we’ve yet to visit. And that’s OK.

HEADED FOR MEZCALA

It was Ben’s birthday so we headed out for a long promised day trip to the small village of Mezcala. Our first stop was the Colibri Gardens Cafe just outside of Chapala where bakers Georgina and Peter serve up a fine cup of coffee and a pastry – even gluten free! Then off to explore Mezcala.

As we wander through the village in our car we note the lake to our right where we find 2 parking lots. A Mexican man with a big smile and a messenger bag waves us in to the first one. An older man with a cowboy hat leaves his bench outside the little tienda (store) next door where his wife and daughter (?) sit and follows us in. “I’m a tour guide” the man with the tattered bag calls out. Ben baulks, “Tell him we don’t need one.” The guy spoke English. He got it. But as we walked toward the water he followed us anyway smiling and spewing out a nonstop history lesson. Jose was pleasant enough, with a big smile and obvious pride in his town and the famous island offshore. As I hand him 100 pesos for his time he touches the bill to his lips with a prayer, grateful.

At the end of the abbreviated malecón I see a family of squatters in a makeshift shanty by the water, a fat piglet tied and scraping in the mud nearby. Within minutes 3 different locals holding menus approach us urging us to come and eat at their restaurants there by the malecón. There was no one in any of them. No one. And I admit that with what I saw around me, I would not eat there (though I’ve read that the fresh fish served is quite good). But it was quickly apparent that the people of Mezcal are quite needy. “They’re hungry,” Ben says, hungry for business. Maybe hungry for food as well. He noted as we walked that no one was selling (though the stores were open) and no one was buying. Except for a workman and a young man in a nice car (go figure!) who bought snacks from a vendor by the plaza. There were very few cars, mostly “rattle-traps”, and no handy gas station, though I noted a PEMEX station on the main road on the way in.

When a mother and her young daughter stop to coo over our pup Tumi and ask to pet him, 3 other little girls nearby are smiling, hopeful, so we stop to let them pet him as well. He doesn’t mind and they are thrilled. Along the way I note an absence of elderly and pregnant teenagers, common sites in some areas of Lakeside. There is also an absence of masks.

The Parroquia de Nuestra Señora de la Asunción (Church Of Our Lady of the Assumption) on the plaza, the empty plaza, was built and dedicated in 1971. (Where is the original church? Did we miss it somehow?) An antiquated stone cross and figure of the Señora stand in small patches of grass in front, the only signs of the ancient history quoted by Jose earlier. “Our town is old, very old.” Mezcala was in fact settled by the Coca Indians around 1400 AD, over 100 years before the Spanish conquest.

The Isla de Mezcala holds the distinction of being the site of the last battles of the Spanish conquest, battles won over 4 years (1812-1816) by the native people with slingshots and sticks, enraged by the treatment of their people. But we’ll take that tour another time.

https://www.chapala.com/lakechapala/the-battle-of-mezcala-island/

A small black dog lies curled up on a plaza bench. He looks peaceful and healthy. Gazing down at him I notice his chest is not rising/falling. He must’ve died peacefully in his sleep. I wonder who’s missing their pup and who will find him there. And when.

Outside the village pavement narrows to wheel size trails (blocks?) with virtually no shoulder, just above the lake. We pass buses, dump trucks, vans and cars, moving carefully to the side each time. Drivers wave and smile. No gringos here. Tucked by the upper roadside are rows and rows of chayote vines, complete with wooden produce boxes waiting to be filled. Under one patch of vines sits a table with several pyramids of chayotes, and in front an old red bicycle, both waiting in dappled sunlight. The mountains here remind us of some of the mountains of North Carolina. We are not surprised to learn that the locals have been fighting to keep their land from developers since 1999. They do not want another Ajijic. They do not want an invasion of foreigners. Theirs is “common land”, collective property, and they want to keep it that way.

In 1999 a wealthy businessman from Guadalajara “confiscated” 25 acres and built his “rest home” (vacation home). He soon had the locals to answer to, causing him to surround “his land” with armed guards. The people of Mezcala took it to the government, a government that declines to declare the Coca as an official indigenous tribe since they have lost their native language and trajes (costumes). Lost in the battles of the Conquest. In 2018 the Coca won the right to keep their land, but the businessman had a few months to contest the ruling. I’ve yet to find the latest information. Did Covid halt the battle? And what happens if the Coca keep their land? I feel their pride but can they thrive on the maize, nopales and chayotes they cultivate? A double-edged sword.

https://www.theguardian.com/global-development-professionals-network/2017/apr/04/the-american-expats-moving-into-the-mexican-riviera-and-breaking-up-indigenous-communities

On the way back to Chapala “Los Mangos Restaurante“, a large pumpkin colored sign by the small highway, screams to be discovered. Tucked in a back street fit only for 4wheelers a middle aged Mexican woman smiles as she stirs a big pot, tending a wood fire as her early teens granddaughter with the striking face and budding figure runs past us smiling. Maybe her restaurante is the best (only?) one around but the nurse/spoiled gringa in me says no way will I eat in this poor, broken down village without knowing more. Not with my sensitive stomach.

“Mow-knee!” the young boys called out with expectant faces as we drive by the tiny unremarkable plaza of the unnamed village. “Mow-knee!” I wish now that we had stopped and paid them to let me take their picture. We found the tiny village after following a dual track road looking for the “Jardínes Agua” announced by the tall, faint road sign.  We found Los Mangos instead. We wave and turn the car around climbing back up to the pristine highway.

Coming and going we encounter smiling “weed whackers” by the roadside holding scythes and waving a red cloth, urging us to stop to add change to the propina bucket secured with a red tie to a broomstick that is topped with another red cloth. Unpaid road crew. Volunteers? Wish we’d stopped.  

On the way back we search for the tall skinny pole that holds the road sign for Tomahawk Steakhouse, an unassuming building.  We keep hearing how good it is so we wander in and encounter great service and mesquite grilled meat and veggies. We’ll be back. 

The main street through Chapala offers up a line of vaqueros (cowboys) and a young woman riding sidesaddle in a long white gown headed where? No time for a picture but it registers that this is not a scene common in the States. And less common here since Covid.

As the day ends the music down the street from our house softens, the neighbor’s dogs are quiet and the bugs (crickets?) buzz their lullaby. I lay my head down and am grateful for another day (finally) of discovering the charm of México. 

TAKE TWO

It has been TWO years since Covid smashed into our lives and changed everything. Two years that the Mexican people have been told they cannot gather to celebrate except within their own families. I expect we’ll hear fireworks (cohetes) and some loud music from nearby tonight. But the parade and public gatherings are once again on hold. The plaza may be decorated but mostly empty. So below is an excerpt and photos from my post just after that last public celebration of Mexican Dia de Independencia in 2019 since there is little to photograph today.

“Every year in September Mexico celebrates its independence from Spanish rule. A long weekend is filled with festivals, parades, contests, dancing, special food, and the battle cry for independence. Raised in 1810 by Miguel Hidalgo, the battle cry stirred the citizens to fight for freedom in a war that lasted over eleven years. All over Mexico the recitation of Hidalgo’s speech occurs at the same time on Independence Day Eve (September 15th): delegados, mayors and even the country’s president recite the famous battle cry known as “El Grito“. Crowds of Mexicans gather in plazas around the country to hear the famous words. Es muy importante para Méxicanos!”

Even with celebrations minimized there are still dozens of cars on the only street (carretera) connecting the villages by the Lake. Guadalajarans flood the little towns, enjoying a holiday getaway. From the perspective of living here (gringos and locals alike), it feels like they “take over”. They are city folks and not always as polite as the local people. Nonetheless, restaurants will be open and decorations are for sale by the street. Here in Mexico the locals take things in stride, smile, and make the best of whatever takes place.

It’ll be Ben’s birthday next week and we’ll celebrate with two other folks at an outdoor restaurant. Luckily we have many here. The rainy season is ending now so we’re soaking up the visions of emerald green foliage and ever-changing clouds, preparing for months of dry weather. I’m hoping that next year will be different and we will all gather in the plaza to sing and dance and applaud. Viva Mexico!

BOOKENDS

Old friends, old friends/Sat on their park bench like bookends…Can you imagine us years from today – sharing a park bench quietly – how terribly strange to be 70…OLD FRIENDS…Paul Simon of course. I’ve always loved that song and having just turned 70 last month, it has even more meaning. Visiting “old” friends was certainly part of the reason for my trip to North Carolina.

Like “bookends” my 2 nervously anticipated flights, my first since Covid, and 2 long delayed, long awaited visits with my granddaughter bracketed the beginning and the end of this journey.

Flying during Covid. Not enjoyable. Many people were without masks or wore them pulled below their noses even though mandates were clear. The flight to NC was packed and it was impossible to keep any distance in the Guadalajara airport. Rules were announced but not enforced. A woman beside me (where Ben would’ve been had he not had to cancel) wore a mask but coughed and sneezed throughout the flight. I wore 2 masks but held a scarf up to the side of my face for extra protection. I was glad to land in Charlotte where there was more space to distance myself. I’m glad to say that my taxi and Uber drivers throughout the trip were compliant with masking.

Use a mask in public to optimize your protection!

After 2 years away…I wondered if my 2 1/2 year old granddaughter, last seen in person at 6 months of age, would know my face from weekly FaceTime calls (thanks Toni!)?. “Look Hazel. It’s Abuela,” my son spoke softly. After a moment of consideration her smile cracked open as she reached for me with open arms. “Bela!” she called out. I melted…Ah, the wonders of modern technology.

Jet lagged but happy!

Hazel is amazing of course so watching her, hearing her speak sentences, holding her, was a delight. Super active and high spirited, keeping up with her in the midst of jet lag and 95+ temperatures was challenging. Holding her while we watched Disney movies Frozen, Moana and The Good Dinosaur, even for a few minutes at a time, was the highlight of my visit with her. (Lovely messages and incredible visuals.) We also managed a few minutes of outdoor water play and some indoor watercolors, 2 of her favorite activities. Along with eating. Apple crisps & “peticots” – apricots. This child can eat! And loves most everything.

She ate all of it!

As I mentioned before I’d just turned 70 and my son turned 45 while I was there. Thanks, Son, for the little celebration! So happy to be with family!

The cost of a rental car for 2 weeks has doubled in 2 years so I opted for Uber to take me to (and from) the Charlotte Amtrak station to travel to Durham. I’ve loved train travel since I was a little girl and in these times find it safer. Masks are mandated and trains are filled to less than 50%. Seats are comfortable with plenty of leg room.

Once in Hillsborough I was blessed to have a loaner car the whole time from our dear friend Christine, who also gave me her apartment for the first week while she was away. In between lunches with “old friends” I soaked up the quiet time that respite afforded me. My acupuncturist and friend Robin brought me essential oils and took me to Ixtapa, the Mexican restaurant where our friend Gladis first started coaching me in Spanish. My friend Judy picked me up in her husband’s new Tesla and took me to lunch and then to her fabric studio in the old River Mill. I met my friend Mary at Timberlyne in Chapel Hill for lunch and caught up on all the news from Carol Woods, the retirement community I had worked in. My dear friend Shelton from Boone traveled down from the mountains to visit me for the day after 4 years of not seeing each other. Neighbor Blair gave me snacks and an old suitcase to carry my purchases back in as we talked about life in Hillsborough. Blessed!

Gladis @ Ixtapa
What a ride!

Next I drove to Durham to spend the rest of my time in central NC with our friend Onja. Along with our friend Bill we enjoyed breakfast in a French restaurant followed the next day by a necessary shopping trip with friend and former coworker Cherry who graciously drove me anywhere I needed to go. A trip to the Apple store did NOT result in the new phone I’d hoped for. The high price and uninterested sales clerk took care of that. Somehow it has ceased to matter for now.

Onja and I spent hours talking and laughing. It’s been years since I’ve watched JEOPARDY. So much to learn! I got a lot of reading done while she worked during the day, as well as running some errands in the loaner car. Talked to my friend Charlene who was being cautious about Covid (thank you!). (It hit me full force during these 2 weeks that I am no longer tolerant of closed doors and windows, air conditioning and spending most hours indoors. I missed the breezes coming off Lake Chapala.)

Abrey @ Durham Salt Cave
Sweet Onja. Thank you!

As a belated birthday gift Onja took me to Durham Salt Cave, a room built of Himalayan salt bricks standing on a floor of pink salt. While you lie in specially designed loungers (“sound chairs”) music tuned to the chakras plays as a fine mist of salt diffuses through the air. Incredibly relaxing and detoxifying. Abrey and Bruce have obviously put a lot of loving thought into creating a special experience for their customers. Durham has surely changed in the last 10+ years. So much going on.

Downtown Durham/Farmer’s Market

Amtrak took me back to Charlotte after my time with Onja, where I spent 24 hours with my son and granddaughter before heading home. I shared old photos and my baby cards I’d rescued from Ben’s studio with Hazie. Though I’d told her only the names and relationships of relatives in the photos, she gathered them up and spread them on the windowsill announcing “This is my family!” Unprompted. Smart cookie. Of course. How very hard to step away. When will I see her again?

Heading home rendered numerous delays related to severe storms. The line to reschedule was unbelievably long. Saturday morning Ben called to see if I’d check my email. (I was too busy enjoying Hazie!) “Your flight’s been canceled!” Surely not. A new and undesirable experience. But 2 lines down was another email asking me to confirm rebooking on a nonstop flight (yeah!) arriving in Guadalajara by 9:36PM, 2 hours earlier than the original flight. My son ordered an SUV limo driven by his friend Mina from Egypt to take me to the airport (Thanks Son). Charlotte airport is huge and there was plenty of room for distancing as I waited.

Luckily my flight was not canceled though it was delayed several times. This time the plane was only half full and I was allowed to take a seat by myself. What a relief! Eventually we landed in Guadalajara around 11:30PM. I managed to hit the green light button on exiting which meant they would NOT go through my bags and delay my time getting home. How happy I was to see my friendly driver Salvador waiting outside the door to help me with my bags – 4 is too much for 1 person to handle! By 1AM I was home. Thankful to arrive safely. And torn between 2 countries…I miss my friends and family in the States more than I can say. And being back with Ben, Tumi, and friends here is good.

Public parking wall art in Hillsborough

LOVELY GUANAJUATO

The students are away. 30,000 of them. There’s room to move around the city. This lovely city of beautiful buildings and friendly people. Capital of Guanajuato state. A municipality of nearly 200,000. I feel wrapped in its arms. I could stay here for awhile. Get to know it. I could do that.

La Universidad de Guanajuato

I admit I am a nervous traveler. Somehow it seems to bring out my issues about getting lost, making mistakes…leftover baggage from childhood. But with google maps on my phone, I thought surely we’d find our way to our rental casita in the neighborhood of Pastita. And we did. After going in circles for awhile. Turns out there is one main road IN and one main road OUT of Guanajuato and a panoramic highway that circles the city. A friend recently told me that it’s a given that you’ll get lost in Guanajuato. Now I know. Tranquila

Our little casita sits just behind the green gate at 156 Pastita (one of the 4 oldest neighborhoods), a portal to the lush gardens, tall trees, and modern white adobe and stone house of our hostess Sue. A transplant from Cornwall, England, former artistic glassblower turned gardener, Sue has settled happily into life in this romantic European flavored city.

We quickly learned that walking into el Centro was easy, but taking a taxi was our best option going back. Guanajuato’s stacks of sherbet colored adobe houses tumble into a narrow valley with small winding streets and alleyways, many nowhere near car width. Even with its elevations it is definitely a walkable city (barring mobility issues) and there are few parking places to be had. Buses, taxis, and Ubers are cheap and plentiful.

Arches and underground tunnels are part of the landscape here. After major floods in 1760 and 1780 tunnels built by the mining companies offered a route for the water of the Guanajuato River to bypass el Centro. In 1960 a dam (Presa de la Olla) was built bringing the control needed to turn the tunnels into underground streets and providing a reservoir of potable water.

Exiting a tunnel (not us!)

We spent our first day wandering with the intent of orienting ourselves to the city. Our second day was guided by Veronique, a French resident of Guanajuato for 20 years. She is deliciously fluent in Spanish and loved by locals who know her as a tour guide and former restauranteur. We never thought to ask if she was picking us up. It turns out she has never driven a car in her life. Our tour through the city was unexpectedly all on foot.

We started by walking to the Embajadores, a busy central plaza not far from our casita, complete with vendors of food, trinkets, and daily necessities. Small stores and tiny restaurants line the streets. It was a good place to snag a taxi to La Valenciana mine, still in operation, where the largest vein of silver in México was found in 1774. We visited Bocamina de San Ramón, an ex hacienda and mine functioning as a museum and event hall. It sits near the San Cayetano Church, built of pink volcanic stone (cantera) in the 18th century. Intricately carved wooden doors mark the entrance to altarpieces lavishly covered in gold leaf. Nearby are the fortress style walls of the old Guadalupe mine now also used as an event area.

Returning to el Centro, we wandered past the Alhóndiga de Granaditas, a large stone grain storage building with small horizontally set windows and giant wooden doors, perched on the hillside to escape flooding. Here the Spaniards holed up in the first battle of the Mexican War of Independence in 1810. El Pipila, “an extraordinarily strong local miner” (El Pipila)was chosen to set the wooden doors aflame and did so with tar and a torch after tying a large flat stone to his back to protect himself from bullets as he crawled to the building. Everyone inside was killed. When the insurgents were ultimately caught the four leaders were beheaded and their heads hung at the corners of the Alhóndiga for the ten years it took for México to win its independence.

Mercado Hidalgo. This classical iron structure houses three floors of market stalls selling a variety of food, crafts, and household items. The beautiful building (hard to get a good photo that day-see center photo below) was originally designed as a train station by the creator of the Eiffel Tower. But the idea failed and the striking metal building topped by a large four sided clock was quickly turned into a market and named after one of the insurgents whose head hung from nearby Alhóndiga. Here we ate the best food we had in Guanajuato (this is not a city for foodies or vegetarians) – carnitas with handmade tortillas, a creamy green salsa and a Boing! fruit juice drink to wash it down. So good we ate five apiece! To the tune of $10 for the 3 of us, including tip.

Leaving the Mercado we wandered to Positos, an area of wide plazas surrounded by colorful restaurants and narrow alleyways leading to treasures like the Diego Rivera Museum (the house he grew up in) and the Corozon de Plata jewelry store. A few small Japanese restaurants are tucked away in the alleys as well, a nod to the rising Japanese population in Guanajuato. Along the way we encountered a lively group of street musicians and artists ignoring the rain and the lack of passersby. Here we left Veronique with thanks and promises to be in touch. Gracias!

Mondays museums and many restaurants are closed so at Veronique’s suggestion we decided to visit the Alfarería Tradicional of Gorky González, known for his studies in Japan (where he met his wife) and for bringing majolica ceramics to México. As we wandered through the studio showrooms, a lovely older Japanese woman approached us quietly. As she found prices for us from a huge loosely bound catalog I learned that she was Tishiko Ono, wife of the famous ceramicist, now deceased.

As we finished our transaction she spoke softly in Spanish with the ending lilt that told me she’d asked a question. It took me a minute to understand that she was inviting us to see her home.  Honored, we followed her as she walked from the shop and turned the key in the tall iron grids containing her 2 sandy haired (friendly) perrotitos and massive untamed gardens. Tree sized plants spilled out of giant pots creating a courtyard jungle. 

She opened the glass doors to the sala and switched on the floor lamp, illuminating her prized possessions – Mis antiguas, she informed us, pointing to shelves filled with older ceramic pieces reminiscent of the shop’s current stock. We declined her gracious offer of café, I’m afraid, an unfortunate decision I now know. We had plans for the day and limited energy and were intimidated by the language barrier, even though she and I had managed it with relative ease so far.

As Tishiko walked us to the door and thanked us for coming, I pulled out my phone – Una foto, por favor? She nodded Yes without hesitation standing framed by the doorway. A sweet and gracious encounter.

We wandered on to Café Tal for beso de chocolate caliente (a “kiss” of thick hot chocolate), cappuccino and croissant, and then through the Plaza de la Paz where we encountered 2 weddings at the Basilica Colegiata de Nuestra Señora, shopped in a treasure trove of Mexicana handicrafts, and made our way to the Diego Rivera Museum. Enough for one day. Museums tomorrow. Don Quijote, Teatro Juarez, Museo del Pueblo de Guanajuato and others.

But on Tuesday, thwarted by the gray skies and persistent rain, we decided to head home a day early, saving the plethora of plazas, churches, and museums for another visit. On our first day there the rains had started just as we were leaving the Santo Cafe with its famous bridge over the alley. Initially stopped short by the “river” of water flowing down the sidewalk, ultimately we jumped in and made our way “home”. It took more than 24 hours for our shoes to dry. Time to go. We’ll head back in a sunnier time of year. There is much to see.

If you want to know more about Guanajuato City I highly recommend YouTube and Wikipedia. I’m also happy to share contact information for our casita and our guide.

TAPALPA CHARACTER (S)

This is my third post about Tapalpa. Our fourth visit there. This time we went to escape the Ajijic heat. We were not disappointed. 81 is not as hot there somehow. Our visit took on a new “character” this time since we had our pup Tumi with us. AND since we were the first visitors to a new rental listing on the quieter end of town.

The word “character” has numerous meanings according to the web. In this case we’ll consider it “a distinctive trait, quality, or attribute”, “of or relating to one’s character”, but also “a distinguishing feature”. Let’s take a look.

The character of our rental charmed me at first. If I looked past the broken doors, construction materials, dismantled hot tub, etc. etc. My, what it must have been 154 years ago! (A wall plaque dedicates the original structure in 1867.) And it’s much quieter there. An occasional dog bark, or marching band or political announcement. But night time is quiet. I relished it. As long as I stuck to “the path” through the two story partially dismantled, partially remodeled structure, the center that holds it together, it was OK to be there, at least temporarily. Tumi was satisfied with the yard out back, even though he had to pick his way around boards and brush. Ben took on the morning task of firing up the wood stove to take the chill off. Upstairs the bedroom (great bed!) adjoins a private steam room/shower to warm us up before we headed downstairs. There’s no sneaking around upstairs. You can’t miss the broken, creaky beaded pine flooring with holes in it at the doorway. Is this safe? We’re tired. We adapt.

Once we established a routine we took off to join Elena for a tour of her family’s land. Once a professional “ballet folklorico” dancer living in Mexico City with her architect husband, Elena has come home “because I LOVE nature!”. We wandered past her family barn, authentic adobe (over 200 years old), past the milk cows, up the mountainside to the wide vista at the top. But only after stopping halfway up for a snack of veggies, Tajin (a delicious blend of mild dried chilis, dried lemon peel and salt) and lime. Complete with stools for Ben and I to sit on, being almost twice Elena’s age. She thought of everything. We talked about so many different things. Her English is near perfect, though she apologizes, as any polite Mexican would, she explains. Her smile, her energy, her “joie de vie”, in Spanish “alegría de la vida“, is strikingly evident. We waved goodbye, happy to have met her.

The next day we visited Gaby at her tiny corner restaurant “La Cuachala” where she and her mujeres cook up the best regional “fast food” in town. We discovered her place 2 years ago and head for it as quickly as possible anytime we’re in town. The classic Mexican brown clay pots painted with small yellow flowers and stacked on matching pedestals are filled to the brim (if you’re early enough) with hot, spicy, delicious meat and vegetable fillings for tacos and fajitas. The familiar and satisfying slap, slap of handmade deep yellow corn tortillas greets you at the door. Salsas sit in small brown bowls in front, just under the new (to us) plexiglass shield separating us from the kitchen. But beyond the smell and taste of the food what drew us in was the wide smile Gaby gave us as we wandered in tentatively. I showed her a picture from 2 years ago, taken with her daughter Gaby and the smile grew even bigger. She is calm, poised, and patient. She doesn’t mind that I struggle with Spanish. She smiles and gently corrects me when needed, replying in broken English when she can. We ate there 4 times during the week and brought leftovers back to Ajijic. We hated to leave this little corner of delights. We look forward to seeing her again.

Two years ago, wandering the streets looking for treasures, we stumbled on a little alleyway with rather more “exotic” shops than the other streets, eventually coming to a sign announcing the premises as “La Sandunga Sabe: Cocina Oaxaqueña” restaurante. Oaxaca is widely known for its amazing cuisine so I was excited! In Tapalpa?

And so we met Martín and Cristina. The small restaurant of about 8 tables greets you with graffiti walls bracketed by pictures of iconic Frida Kahlo, accompanied by words of wisdom written in Spanish. Martín is full of energy, racing back and forth between the minuscule kitchen and the entrance to greet a neighbor who announced that his dog Luna, whom he’s just “shooed” home, was missing (then found). As I stepped back to speak with him I saw the cardboard box with a small white perrotito (puppy) and its parents, just before the petite Mexican niña arrived to whisk the pup away. Martín is obviously a part of the neighborhood. “Why did you leave Oaxaca?” I asked. “It was the elections.” I left it at that.

The food was amazing. Unlike anything I’d had anywhere since we visited Oaxaca 2 years ago. Tlayudas stuffed with meat, onions & Oaxacan cheese. Oval shaped memelitas sprinkled with veggies, meat and cheese, strong café de olla straight from the brown clay pot, steeped with cinnamon and a little sugar (cone shaped piloncillo) – muy rico! – and chocolate caliente foamed to the brim. Yum! (I was so excited I forgot to take pictures!)

Martín has few customers. Most of the tourists in Tapalpa are from Guadalajara with little interest in cocina reginal Oaxaqueña, regional cooking of Oaxaca. He’s thinking of moving to Chapala. “Vamos! Vamos!” I shouted. Come on! Come on! We hope to see him there, though it’s lovely to find him tucked away in this quaint little corner of Tapalpa.

After a week there, topped off by a night of nearby band music and cohetes (fireworks), we decided we were done. Ready to head home. A day earlier than planned. I was proud of us, for taking it in stride, for finding ways to enjoy our crazy accommodations. Sitting in the living room on the old Mexican couch that morning, I realized how grounded I felt. How even in the midst of this deconstructed mess the stone, tile, wood stove, huge carved wooden supports (vigas), even the dark wooden entry doors with their sturdy thick 7″ metal key, combined with the knowledge that the structure is still standing after 154 years in this beautiful little mountain village, gave me a sense of solidity and strength. Ironic. But combined with the lovely character of the people and the town, twisting our way down the mountain I knew that we had just had another wonderful Mexican adventure!

TEPEHUA REVISITED

In December of last year I posted a blog about the poor barrio (neighborhood) of Tepehua on a hill above the town of Chapala, nearly 13 kilometers from where I live. Some of you reached out to see how you could contribute to the needs of this community. A close friend suggested that since the need in Tepehua continues I might consider reposting my entry with an update which you will find at the bottom of this post. Thank you for your time & attention!

Tepehua (tay-PAY-oo-wah) is the name of an indigenous population of México, and also the name of a barrio (neighborhood) on the hillside above Chapala. The barrio has a history of drug and alcohol abuse, crime, violence, and disease. Women lack knowledge of nutrition and birth control. Children often lack the proper documents that make education available, limiting their possibilities for the future. In 2010, with so much need realized, a small group of volunteers gathered together and, with the help of the Rotary Club, found funds to create the Tepehua Community Center. The non-profit organization set goals to provide better health, education, and economic opportunities for the residents through advice, counseling, and guidance. Addressing these issues primarily with the women of the barrio, positive changes began taking place. A soup kitchen brought local people in for healthy meals and socialization, with frozen soup provided to those who are homebound, old, &/or infirm. A bazaar provided shopping for gently used items. An education program was put into place, teaching children AND parents to read and use computers. Medical, dental, and maternal health care, even acupuncture, became available at the Community Center clinic, including education on diseases like cancer and STD’s. And over time a program was established to provide fresh, clean water as an alternative to the plethora of easily accessible refrescos (soft drinks) believed to contribute to the rise in kidney disease in the barrio.

My initial interest in Tepehua grew when I spotted well made, colorful face masks just inside the door of the Tepehua Treasures Thrift Shop. When I began asking questions about the beautifully made items stacked on shelves just inside the door, I realized that the person answering me (behind the mask!) was Mary Ruzich, seamstress and friend I had met last year through a neighbor. In fact, our meeting took place – PRE-Covid – on a trip to the fabric district of Guadalajara.

Leaving behind a much enjoyed sewing group in Mazatlan, Mary happily joined the Tepehua Sewing Center that had been organized in 2012. She took over direction of the group over a year ago when its beloved founder Irka passed away. Mary’s career as an elementary school teacher and long time seamstress made her a perfect fit for the job.

Twice a week the highly organized, well-equipped Tepehua Sewing Center hosted a group of ten women who came together to learn business and sewing skills. Mary is constantly listening for opportunities for the women to learn new skills and generate income. In addition to the ever-evolving array of projects, she also teaches them how to do alterations and quilting. Their expertly made products include potholders, eye glass holders, teddy bears, pillow cases, small shoulder bags, aprons, shopping bags, place mats, small zipped purses, the face masks I love, and many more quality items which are sold at community events and the Tepehua Treasures Thrift Shop (in Riberas del Pilar, next to Computerland for those of you who live in the Lakeside area). “It’s all for our children and grandchildren” the women say. Their skills have brought a higher quality of life to all in the barrio, “making lives better, one stitch at a time…”

Enter Covid. The Tepehua Sewing Center classes dropped to half their normal size. When cases began showing up at the medical clinic adjacent to it, the decision was made to close the Center for now and farm projects out to the women in their homes as much as possible. The sale of their products provides much needed income and any disturbance in that process can be catastrophic. Covid has certainly taken its toll, limiting sales opportunities through community events, in addition to limiting classes.

Tepehua Treasures Thrift Shop, is the primary support (no other fund raising is allowed) for the Community and Sewing Centers. They welcome donations of nearly any kind – clothing, jewelry, books, household items – for sale in their store. Monetary donations can also be made via PayPal, check, or cash. Volunteers tend the store Tuesday through Friday from noon until 3 PM. Masks and use of hand gel are mandatory before entering. Hours are short because more volunteers are needed. I recently heard a volunteer explain with great pride the many ways the shop income serves the Tepehua barrio. But here, also, sales are down due to limitations related to Covid. The need is great.

I was lucky enough to visit the Tepehua Community Center this week, thanks to Mary. The large white-washed building proudly sports its name facing the wide cobblestone street. There is not much activity on the street – or in the building. The ample industrial kitchen is quiet and the dining area is lined with stacks of colorful plastic chairs waiting to be put to use again. The bazaar, with its low-priced items, is a bit musty from 10 months of closed doors. The Sewing Center is quiet except for Spanish conversation between Mary and the office manager, Esperanza, working together on a quilting project. Through a rear window I see a hilltop crowded with small concrete block homes. Below, at the back of the building, sits the medical clinic, its van, and the water program building with its new truck. The clinic is only open 2-3 days a week now. A sudden tootoot-toom of a trumpet raises my eyebrows and Mary explains that a family lives in a downstairs casita, acting as caretakers. Their son is learning to play his instrument, bringing the building alive as I stand listening.

Moonyeen (Moonie) King, Director of the Community Center, describes how things have changed this year: “With everything came a sense of urgency… Dental activity was by appointment only so no lines waiting….Food was picked up at the door in packages…and potable water was delivered…The entire organization is working with limited hands on deck or boots on the ground.” Just last week the title of the land where the Community Center stands was signed over to the people of Tepehua, assuring that the Center will be theirs for years to come. Donations from the Rotary Club and the private sector “financially and materially, kept us going” the Director says. There is hope.

And “so this is Christmas…and what have you done?” In the craziness of 2020 so many are in need. Those of us who have so much have the opportunity to reach out to help those less fortunate. Tepehua and its “treasures” have become my cause. Perhaps they will be yours as well.

So “Merry, Merry Christmas! And a Happy New Year! Let’s hope it’s a good one, without any fear.” (John Lennon). Feliz Navidad! Blessings to all.

UPDATE: The latest newsletter from Moonyeen King, Director of the Tepehua Community Center, reminds us that for the ultra poor not much changed during Covid. Their problems were the same though with the added layer of community deaths that may well have been due to the virus. No one really knows. Distribution of water continued through the Rotary’s new program; medical clinics stayed open; meals were distributed to homes on Fridays instead of at gatherings in the Center; women completed sewing projects in their homes. (Mary tells me she is now moving toward turning the Sewing Center over to the women themselves & acting as an “as needed” consultant, again meeting the organization’s goal of helping people help themselves.)

As time moves on & Covid restrictions loosen, new projects to benefit the community are in the works. The major need now is sanitation facilities. The individual toilets we take for granted are not the norm in the barrio. Convenience rules, contributing to disease & disarray. Moonyeen is leading the way for construction of communal toilets that will connect to the town’s sewage system. There will be both adult & child versions, taking advantage of the opportunity to distribute educational materials as well. Once again, fundraising is a MUST. Once again you can make a difference by donating to a hands-on, frontline, low administrative (volunteers run the program) cost project. Check into Tepehua.org for ways you can contribute!

I leave you with the final paragraph of the latest newsletter:

“Thank you for your support in our struggle against the injustice of poverty, perhaps one day there will be a level playing field but until that happens, we have to give a hand up to those in our society under the poverty line through no fault of their own. It benefits the community as a whole and makes a healthy middle class which is needed for community survival.

Stay Safe. Yours in Rotary and the Barrio of Tepehua.”

Moonyeen King

To learn more about the Community Center and the Thrift Shop, visit:

https://l.facebook.com/l.php?u=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.tepehua.org%2F%3Ffbclid%3DIwAR2Iq9hyOeffYMQ1Xcnfmaau7fIMYFlOP75jPSCFl1DtZM0uUN1F3lU0xDE&h=AT2M68mK7HcyXcVofLaVn37Zifxr1FmCXHhoOueba7LQH3_qAtU3dmvzxKndvFzYKVhJ3UBTkZRU5wAbHZqsgtm4XsnITkALUm0rg2lNSQnv8qj3ZEBzKwgtzMsle3pO43qWkuoJ

https://tepehua.org

For more information about the sewing program, or to arrange a tour, contact Mary Ruzich at mruzich53@gmail.com or +1 541 690 2771.

(Thanks to Mary for her time, assistance, and some of the photographs. And to Esperanza & the volunteers in Tepehua Treasures for their co-operation. Also to Moonyeen King for her forward-thinking & fierce leadership.)

SMOKE GETS IN YOUR EYES

Borrowed from online post

THIS is Mount Garcia. On fire. A week ago. We wondered why we kept hearing sirens. Then we saw this picture.

Needless to say it’s the dry season here. We’ve had a couple of sprinkles lasting a few minutes each since last August. Every breath feels/smells dry. Every step kicks up dust. Every car not washed in the last hour is covered. Even our pup Tumi has gone from gray to gray with brown overtones!

The pasture behind our house, all pastures in fact, green and lush in late summer, are nothing but dry dirt and rocks now. Cattle and horses are thirsty and hungry. They’re usually moved pasture to pasture, lot to lot, but now there is no reason to move them. The two horses on our street are being fed with carrots, apples, cabbage, etc. by those of us who walk by and see their predicament. There isn’t much hay available here and most can’t afford it anyway. Somehow the animals get by.

Even scarier are the fires that ensue. The brush and grasses on the mountainside become brittle with dryness creating perfect conditions for fire. Last year there were raging wildfires east of us that took weeks to extinguish. It was amazing to see helicopters hover over the lake scooping water up in large buckets that were flown to the fires and dumped. So inefficient. You do what you have to. (Sorry, can’t find my photo.)

Weekly housecleaning isn’t really enough right now. Dust (polvo) covers tables and countertops, floors and furniture, even seeps inside cabinets, within a matter of hours. And, no, we don’t close up the house. We came here to live in the outdoors hearing the sounds of nature, feeling the breeze, watching the trees sway. It is a choice.

So last week we watched the glow of burning fires and the plumes of smoke gather. We heard the sirens. We saw the air over the lake fill with smoke. Our eyes and nostrils burned. We pondered the possibility of fire behind our house instead of across the lake or miles to the east. Home owners insurance doesn’t mean much here. Claims would likely never be paid. Houses are made of brick, concrete, and metal. You take your chances.

We wait now for the rains. The buzzing, clicking hum of the “rain birds”, cicada-like insects, began a couple of weeks ago. They are a legendary predictor here of rain in the making, 6 weeks away from their first cries. Fingers crossed. We are ready. My eyes are dry yet blurry. Nothing helps much. Clouds are gathering across the lake lately. Strong winds and dark clouds arose from nowhere last night, slamming doors and floating loose papers to the floor. Hopefully a sign of what’s soon to arrive. I’m ready to stand in it. Green has become my favorite color!

TURN OF EVENTS

Every day is different, but April 1st brought an unexpected turn of events.

Over the past few months Ben began having decreased energy and shortness of breath. With a history of asthma + a higher altitude he decided to see a pulmonologist. One test led to another and ultimately to cardiology. People always ask how the medical care is here. The docs we’ve seen are world class, trained mostly at the University of Guadalajara with residencies in the US and other parts of the world. All speak English. The biggest difference I see as a former nurse and family member is often a more personal approach. You are a partner in your own care, a human being, and caregivers are welcomed.

An echocardiogram showed a large blockage in one of Ben’s coronary arteries so surgery was a future probability. But on the day that he experienced chest discomfort for several hours in a row we decided to go back to the cardiologist. We could no longer wait. That was Tuesday, March 30th. “We can go to Guadalajara today,” Dr. Briseño said. “Or we can go Thursday. It’s the beginning of the Easter holiday and traffic will be lighter. The hospital won’t be as full.” In a city of almost 6 million people, this was a plus.

We spent the next day finding a dog sitter then letting family and friends know we’d be away for a day and a half. Packed clothes, gathered meds, reading material, etc. On Thursday morning our driver delivered us and our bags to Hospital Terra Nova emergency room just in time (even after encountering a roadblock set up to divert traffic away from bicyclists going into the city!) to meet Dra. (feminine title for doctors) Ashley, Dr. Briseño’s partner. The admission process was quick since they were expecting us and within 30 minutes Ben was in surgery.

Dr. Briseño had told us that the hospital wasn’t fancy and the food wasn’t great. Right on both counts. But Terra Nova was clean and quiet, the staff was friendly, and he had the staff and equipment he needed to do the best job. Many of the nursing staff spoke at least some English. Some spoke none. Younger nurses whipped out their cellphones and used Google Translate along with apologies for not knowing more. Heck! I was impressed. It’s their country after all. But I was grateful for the amount of Spanish I know. It definitely helped. And the experience motivated me to learn more.

Ben went through the cardiac catheterization and stent placement fine. Leaving the next day looked good. Then the unexpected turn of events.

When I woke about 6AM Ben looked miserable. He’d been in pain all night. Staff was in and out while I slept in spurts on the couch provided (more comfortable than his bed). When I awoke it took me a few minutes to realize that he was truly in serious pain, stating “something isn’t right”. We called the nurse and tried to explain. Shift change. We told another nurse. In a little while she returned with a shot for pain. It did nothing. Again we asked for help. She’d call the doctor again. After what seemed like an eternity Dr. Briseño arrived and saw that Ben truly was in distress. “Can’t send you home today. I’m taking you back into surgery to see what’s going on.” “Knock me out this time”, Ben told him. Experiencing stent placement with “conscious sedation” was just too strange.

This is when it hit me that we could be in serious trouble. The nurse in me went “out the window” and this partner/caregiver burst into tears. Being there alone was tough. The worst case scenario passed through my mind in a flash. Not a thought to hold on to but I steeled myself for whatever might happen.

Within 45 minutes Dr. Briseño arrived and sat face to face with me to explain the outcome of the second procedure. Luckily the stent was in place and functioning correctly. “If this resolves in the next 24-48 hours we’ll know that everything is OK, that it was just a stress response to the procedure.” Placed on IV fluids and medications we watched closely over the next 24 hours. And things did indeed begin to improve. It was Saturday, a day late, but we were going home! New medications and restricted activity for a week. But home.

I should say, before we leave the scene, that though the food was not very good, the kitchen staff was delightful. A couple of times I roamed the lovely urban neighborhood and found a specialty food store, a nice deli, and a sweet coffee and quiche shop to fill in the gaps. It was good to be outside doing a bit of exploring.

It was interesting being in a different medical setting after my years of nursing. I see more clearly now from the perspective of a family member, especially in a foreign country. The limitations of language were difficult. Being the patient advocate was still priority, but tougher to accomplish. I hope there are no more “unexpected turns” of this kind. But if there are we’ll know more about how to manage.

There’s a huge difference in the discharge process from a hospital here. Your bill must be paid before you leave. In fact, in some cases it must be paid before you’re admitted. Though Mexico is a cash economy some of the hospitals do take credit cards. The problem is that if you use insurance – we’d purchased a Metlife policy here – you must present “Facturas” to the insurance company for approval before you can leave. These are government forms, official receipts that no provider likes to complete. Once all insurance requirements are met nursing sends you to the checkout desk with a piece of paper to be stamped Pagado (paid) before they can send you home with medications and discharge instructions. We’ve heard horror stories of people waiting up to 20 hours for this process to be completed! After 5 we’d had enough. Ben’s energy was waining. Luckily a phone call to our rep speeded the process and we were soon in the lobby waiting for our driver. Two hours later we were home. Exhausted.

The support we’ve experienced here has been amazing. I let it be known that food would be an issue and food arrived, including through NOB family members. A neighbor walked the dog. Friends called and wrote daily. I spent a good amount of time on Facebook and email during this whole process. It did make things easier. Even now, when I’m walking Tumi on our usual route, other dog walkers and neighbors ask how Ben is and wish him the best. Sometimes he’s with me now, after weeks of being unable to manage the climb, cobblestones, and distance. He’s on the mend. Slowly but surely. This unexpected turn of events classifies as another adventure in paradise!

A DIFFERENT LIFE

November marked our 2 year anniversary of life in Mexico, and it is in fact a very different life in so many ways.

A year ago last week we moved into our “new” house. I named it “the Hallelujah House” because of its wonderful energy and “open arms” welcoming my weary soul in. It was our escape from persistent daily pounding from the house going up against our outer wall. A house that has only recently been completed. Two days after our move renters Bill & Glynis moved into our little casita for the month of March. Two weeks after they moved in the pandemic hit and they high-tailed it back to Canada. We were in lockdown.

Bill & Glynis

And there we all were. Stunned, overwhelmed, depressed. Some of us in denial. Stuck at home. Groundhog Day…after day…after day. I found myself often curling up on the bed in my room full of purple ( a good healing color) and Mexican crafts, watching Netflix. (I’ve seen a lot of good movies and TV series this year.) Sometimes I’d work on a blog post but as I went out less often (just for food and cash) I had, of course, fewer photos and less to write about. And less motivation. We are blessed and I know it. To be in this house with its beautiful view, nice neighbors, and everything we need. Still, it’s been hard for most all of us around the world, if on different levels.

From our lime tree

Locals rallied here to set up meal delivery and veggie and fruit delivery to help keep things rolling. Markets closed but quickly reopened with new hygiene protocols. There are so many who’ve lost jobs and loved ones. Many of us reached out to local organizations, artisans (Jesus Lopez Vega below left), our housekeepers (Alba below right), gardeners, & handymen (I told you, blessed) to help things stay afloat. I doubt we’ve seen the full impact yet. Businesses closing. Kids trying to learn something any way they can. They’ve lost a year of learning I’d say.

Ben and I both have some medical issues but we’re taking care of them. Medical care is generally good here and though costs are out of pocket, prices are much lower than in the States. Most doctors & nurses are trained in Guadalajara at world class medical facilities. Still I find myself a bit nervous about starting all over, going from a world I knew so well as a nurse to one where I am the patient & customs are different. It takes time to settle in. Funny how we crave the familiar when we’re stressed.

Here in Ajijic we’re blessed to have many outdoor restaurants, all following Covid protocols. So we’ve been able to eat out, mostly alone but more recently with one or two friends. The covered terraces of our house and the warm days have made it possible to share food & drink here with others in the past two or three months. The view of nature as we sit sharing stories is soothing & restorative for us all.

2020. A tough one for sure. Covid. The state of the world. So intense. Who knew that our love of travel would be squelched by the pandemic. We came here knowing we would revel in traveling across México, delving into its culture. We came here believing we would be able to return to NC at least twice a year to see family and friends, to see our sweet granddaughter Hazie turn 1, then 2. (Will she be 3 before we see her again?) There’ve been days I’ve been filled with grief, for life and loss, some days caught up in grieving for so many who have lost loved ones or jobs, friends who are quite ill, the disconnect between politicians and people, the Earth and its decline (temporarily masked by the strike of the pandemic), and the harm people cause to each other. As well as the loss of identity related to my work as a nurse and Ben’s career as a craftsman for so many years. Though we chose to leave the US, it has been a huge adjustment in many ways, leaving us emotionally and physically exhausted beyond understanding some days. Adding a pandemic to that mix has often been overwhelming. But it’s getting easier day by day.

Now there is hope it seems. The world is opening up a little. The fog is lifting, as they say. As I look around, begin to get out a bit, talk to friends more, feel the warm Mexican sun on my face, enjoy our little pool, our sweet dog Tumi, and working in our small yard, I am grateful for all I have. I don’t mind wearing masks, washing my hands more often, avoiding crowds. It is a sign of respect for my fellowman. We walk Tumi every morning through nearby neighborhoods, greeting other dog walkers along the way. Talking to Mexican friends Thomas & Dessy who help me with my Spanish & share news about their lives. Saying Hi to my “pet” iguanas climbing out of the stone wall drain. I’ve named them Pedro & Lillie. Don’t ask me why. But it makes me smile. Down at the corner by the main road a group of men gather most mornings next to a cow & her calf, drinking a mix of fresh milk, tequila & Nescafe. They flash silly grins in greeting as we pass by. Not my idea of a good breakfast. Like I said, a different life.

Somewhere along the way I decided to let go of many of the expectations I have of myself and everyone (poor Ben) around me. The bed doesn’t have to be perfectly made. The floor can stay dirty another day. The decorating can wait. The casita can wait to be occupied again. I don’t have to get everything done. I can just read or write if I want to. I’m more relaxed now, more apt to laugh. More apt to spend time with friends rather than making sure everything is in order. Finally.

So can I adjust to this different life? Most of us are adapting to life with Covid. Vaccinations are running behind here. We have several friends who’ve been sick but luckily all recovered. Many who’ve flown back to the US for vaccines. Will we be able to travel again soon? Most indigenous areas aren’t safe yet. Are we glad we moved here? It’s been the adventure of a lifetime. Will we stay here the rest of our lives? Living this different life. I can’t tell you. But for now, the sun is shining and there is hope around every corner.

Thanks to Ben for my wonderful Christmas present by a local artist

Special thanks to my friend Andree who reminded me that my blog keeps us all in each others lives. If you want to help me continue – posting comes with a cost – any contribution to my DONATE button is welcome! Stay well out there!

FINDING OUR WAY

New house beside our old house
One of my favorites

The thrill is gone. The honeymoon is over. Why are we here? What if we went back home? How can I keep my spirits up? What am I grateful for? Why am I so irritable? Why am I having anxiety attacks with only the worst scenarios at night? I wanted to see México. I wanted to see my granddaughter. I wanted to go out with new friends. And old. When?

We walk every morning because our pup insists on it, because he lives for his morning walk, because he runs circles in excitement when he sees us getting ready. And we know it’s good for us, too. But we dread it everyday. Every day. I read an article this morning about “emotional exhaustion” & ticked off nearly every symptom. No wonder I dread those walks. Even though I know that on some level I’ll feel better when we’re back home. I know that both my body & my mind will be grateful that I took that 4200 step walk through nearby neighborhoods.

An article by Alia E. Dastagir in USA Today, linked through Maria Shriver’s excellent SUNDAY PAPER info@mariashriver.com (01/17/21), lists the symptoms of “emotional exhaustion”:

Difficulty with concentration

Irritability

Nervousness

Frustration

Loss of motivation

Lack of focus

General ‘brain fog’

Feeling disconnected from other people

A sense you’re not effective or competent (even if you’ve been overperforming at home or at work)

Actual problems with performance, including making more mistakes than usual

Physical symptoms can include:

Muscle fatigue & tension

Headaches

Stomach problems

Sleep problems 

I list these to give you some kind of barometer to measure your own symptoms against. There are 3 categories listed as ways to “reset”:

Set boundaries/Don’t try to be a superhero/Figure out what “refills” you emotionally. All important. And I would add to use techniques like meditation, yoga & deep breathing to keep you in the moment. That’s when I do best.

As long as I’m holding my head above water I’m going to allow this exhaustion. An AA tenet says “the only way out is through” & that certainly applies here. After all, where could you go & not encounter the same issues at this point in time? The ticket is to keep moving. Get off the bed or the couch several times a day & DO SOMETHING. Because often I’d rather not, you know. I’m retired. I have the luxury of setting my own schedule. I’d rather escape into Netflix or Amazon Prime. I’ve seen some great stuff these past few months. And I’ve read a lot of good books, worked a lot of jigsaw puzzles on my iPad. But it’s probably getting out for the morning walk (& contact with friends by phone or email) that saves me.

So how are YOU feeling? We’re all in this together. Come take a walk with me.

I wrote this yesterday & realize I’m feeling better today. Just being able to put how I feel in writing helped. Today I’ve decided to schedule a time to write & study Spanish each day. Maybe that will help. Maybe having a new President & Vice President will help. Maybe 2021 will be the beginning of a better life, a better world, for all.